Something like that has been fresh In my mind after the recent passing of my grandfather. As I'm sure many are, I am uncomfortable about the idea of having that conversation at this point in my life, even though the sudden death in my family has really put it into perspective just how fragile life is.
Oddly enough, I had to put my cat down this weekend as a result of kidney failure. The decision to put my cat down actually sparked the topic of end of life care between my parents and I. We were all on the same pages with our wishes as I had expected, but it was good to discuss the topic. It isn't any easy thing to bring up but I can assure you you'll feel better after the discussion.
I haven't really put much thought into having that conversation. I probably should think about it sometime soon and sit down with my parents to discuss it. I'm glad that you bring that up though because I feel like that is an important topic.
End of life care is a very hard topic for my family. Everyone wants different things for each other and ourselves and it is very hard to agree. I think it is something that will come up in the near future again and hopefully it will be a more successful talk!
I hope you have success with that talk, Torie. My family and I all have relatively similar views on end of life care and I still can't seem to bring up the conversation with them- it really is a touchy and difficult subject to talk about! Part of it has to start with accepting our own mortality, and for that matter accepting that of someone you care about deeply. No one wants to imagine losing anyone they are close to, but having this talk could make it easier if anything does happen.
As with Torie, end of life care is not an easy topic to bring up with my family. My parents are young still and I'm pretty sure they think they are more invincible than I am. They are definitely not comfortable talking about the possibility of something happening to me either and when I bring something like that up, it because somewhat of a laughing matter and the topic gets pushed aside.
My fiance is the same way as well. He won't even talk about death in any situation. I try to bring it up often enough to hopefully break down some of the difficulties he has with the situation so that one day maybe one of our talks will be successful.
I agree that talking about the end of life isn't the easiest thing to do. I used to be somewhat like your fiancé in a sense that I didn't really know much about death and what it truly meant. Now I feel as if death is something that I should learn a little more about and discuss with my family.
I have never explicitly talked about end of life care with my family but every time I watch a video like this I feel a more urgent need to do so. There has been casual mention of things like assisted living, but never about true end of life wishes. It's difficult to imagine talking to my parents about it, but it would be much easier than any alternative should an accident or medical emergency occur...
I attempted to have this conversation with my parents when I went home for Easter. My parents and I are very close and can talk about almost anything but I found when I tried to bring up this subject they tried to avoid an answer. They simply replied with something vague like "oh yeah maybe we should do that". But I found it was hard to get them to talk about it.
I did, with all parents and in laws. Thanks for the reminder.
ReplyDeleteSomething like that has been fresh In my mind after the recent passing of my grandfather. As I'm sure many are, I am uncomfortable about the idea of having that conversation at this point in my life, even though the sudden death in my family has really put it into perspective just how fragile life is.
ReplyDeleteOddly enough, I had to put my cat down this weekend as a result of kidney failure. The decision to put my cat down actually sparked the topic of end of life care between my parents and I. We were all on the same pages with our wishes as I had expected, but it was good to discuss the topic. It isn't any easy thing to bring up but I can assure you you'll feel better after the discussion.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry! The loss of a pet can be very difficult. As a pet lover I sympathize with your situation.
DeleteI am so sorry too! At least it did get you all talking about end of life care and you all came to an agreement!
DeleteI haven't really put much thought into having that conversation. I probably should think about it sometime soon and sit down with my parents to discuss it. I'm glad that you bring that up though because I feel like that is an important topic.
ReplyDeleteEnd of life care is a very hard topic for my family. Everyone wants different things for each other and ourselves and it is very hard to agree. I think it is something that will come up in the near future again and hopefully it will be a more successful talk!
ReplyDeleteI hope you have success with that talk, Torie. My family and I all have relatively similar views on end of life care and I still can't seem to bring up the conversation with them- it really is a touchy and difficult subject to talk about! Part of it has to start with accepting our own mortality, and for that matter accepting that of someone you care about deeply. No one wants to imagine losing anyone they are close to, but having this talk could make it easier if anything does happen.
DeleteAs with Torie, end of life care is not an easy topic to bring up with my family. My parents are young still and I'm pretty sure they think they are more invincible than I am. They are definitely not comfortable talking about the possibility of something happening to me either and when I bring something like that up, it because somewhat of a laughing matter and the topic gets pushed aside.
ReplyDeleteMy fiance is the same way as well. He won't even talk about death in any situation. I try to bring it up often enough to hopefully break down some of the difficulties he has with the situation so that one day maybe one of our talks will be successful.
I agree that talking about the end of life isn't the easiest thing to do. I used to be somewhat like your fiancé in a sense that I didn't really know much about death and what it truly meant. Now I feel as if death is something that I should learn a little more about and discuss with my family.
DeleteI have never explicitly talked about end of life care with my family but every time I watch a video like this I feel a more urgent need to do so. There has been casual mention of things like assisted living, but never about true end of life wishes. It's difficult to imagine talking to my parents about it, but it would be much easier than any alternative should an accident or medical emergency occur...
ReplyDeleteI attempted to have this conversation with my parents when I went home for Easter. My parents and I are very close and can talk about almost anything but I found when I tried to bring up this subject they tried to avoid an answer. They simply replied with something vague like "oh yeah maybe we should do that". But I found it was hard to get them to talk about it.
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